How Not To Ruin A Child

How Not To Ruin A Child
Sunday, May 10

*Note to leaders: This guide is designed to assist you and your group while growing in your relationship with Jesus together. As you prepare each week, feel free to prioritize questions or sections in this study guide, based on your group dynamic and needs.


The community of God is called to invest in future generations.


Share a positive and impactful teaching moment that you experienced growing up.

Guarantee or General Principle

Have someone read Proverbs 22:6.

What does success look like in parenting?

How can you encourage and show appreciation to other parents this week?

How can reading this verse through the lens of the genre “wise sayings” verses “promises” influence how people understand and apply the passage?

How does the desire of the parents often oppose the free will of children? How can a parent influence their child’s future decisions?

The Next Generation

Have someone read Judges 2:6-15.

Imagine for a moment that Christans today ceased to tell the next generation about Jesus. How different would our society look as a result of no one knowing and following Christ?

What are some examples of how Christians make it more difficult for young people to follow Christ today? (i.e. political expectations, worship styles, generalizations of generations, etc.)

Looking at Judges 2:10-11, what could you do to help prevent this situation from occurring again?

Parents are uniquely positioned to train their children with a knowledge and love for Christ. What are some other ways that the community of believers can better influence the next generation to know and love God?

Pastor Josh introduced five stages of parenting.

Birth to 1 year: Connecting

Ages 1 to 5: Discipline

Ages 6 to 12: Training

Ages 13 to 18: Coaching

Ages 19+: Friendship

As a group, identify some unique differences and benefits of each stage. How can you help others as they seek to navigate each stage of parenting? 

“Your greatest contribution to the kingdom of God may not be the something you do, but the someone you raise” – Andy Stanley

What is your reaction to this statement? How does it motivate you to realign some of your priorities? 


For each week of the series, different family relationships will be highlighted on-stage and in-study. Revisit these helpful acts and try them this week!

The Bigger Family
The sheltering experience impacts us in different ways, but whether we’re busy or bored, we all need someone to talk to. Choose a family-type relationship you have, and reach out to them.

Forgiving Your Family
Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. How is your life hindered by a lack of forgiveness? In prayer, ask God to reveal the people you need to forgive, or be forgiven by—and consider healthy steps in moving forward with those people.

Singleness Is Not A Bad Thing
How can you share life with a single person this week—via video call, written letter, food delivery, etc.?

Parenting Is Hard
Identify one way that you would like to be better at parenting, or supporting a parent in need.

Each week, these action steps can develop healthy habits in how you respond to family situations and relationships, rather than changing the actions of others.


Lord, whether we have children of our own or not, you call us to invest in the next generation. Help us to recognize how we can better raise up the next generation to follow after You. Help us to see opportunities to show your love as we seek to follow your call and invest in future generations. Amen!


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