How To Be Single

How To Be Single
Sunday, May 3

*Note to leaders: This guide is designed to assist you and your group while growing in your relationship with Jesus together. As you prepare each week, feel free to prioritize questions or sections in this study guide, based on your group dynamic and needs.


Despite what family or society may say, singleness is a unique gift that’s as valuable to God as marriage can be.


Share with the group a time that you gave—or received—unsolicited advice about being single or married.


Have someone read 1 Corinthians 7:6-9.

How does society view singleness? What are some assumptions that are made about why someone might be single?

What are some assumptions from the Christian community concerning singleness?

How can being single/married hinder your walk with the Lord? How can it increase your walk?

In light of the Jewish understanding of “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:22), why does the author of the 1 Corinthians passage (Paul) suggest that being single is admirable? 

What are some unique pressures or difficulties that single people experience today?


Have someone read 1 Samuel 20:16-17.

How can the love that we choose to have for other people influence the way we think about and treat them?

David and Jonathan’s famous friendship inspires us to have deep, meaningful relationships. What are some challenges that you encounter when trying to establish and maintain similar friendships?

What would be required of you if you actually loved others the way you love yourself? What thoughts, habits, routines, or actions would change?

Identify someone in your sphere of influence whom you can offer selfless, loving kindness. Share how you plan to show him/her selfless love this week.


For each week of the series, different family relationships will be highlighted on-stage and in-study. Revisit these helpful acts and try them this week!

The Bigger Family
The sheltering experience impacts us in different ways, but whether we’re busy or bored, we all need someone to talk to. Choose a family-type relationship you have, and reach out to them.

Forgiving Your Family
Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. How is your life hindered by a lack of forgiveness? In prayer, ask God to reveal the people you need to forgive, or be forgiven by—and consider healthy steps in moving forward with those people.

Singleness Is Not A Bad Thing
How can you share life with a single person this week—via video call, written letter, food delivery, etc.?

Parenting Is Hard
Identify one way that you would like to be better at parenting, or supporting a parent in need.

Each week, these action steps can develop healthy habits in how you respond to family situations and relationships, rather than changing the actions of others.


Lord, whether we’re single or not, you speak so much through the people we share life with. Our relationship status doesn’t affect your presence and your power; but our outlook on it can limit our ability to follow you. If we’re single, may we focus on your blessings instead of society’s expectations. And if we’re married, help us lift our spouse to you—not above you. Amen!


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