How To Forgive Your Family

How To Forgive Your Family
Sunday, April 26

*Note to leaders: This guide is designed to assist you and your group while growing in your relationship with Jesus together. As you prepare each week, feel free to prioritize questions or sections in this study guide, based on your group dynamic and needs.


The forgiveness we receive from God is a call for us to offer forgiveness over revenge.


Share a fun story of when you tried to get back at someone, but it didn’t go as planned (i.e. sports, trash talking, water wars, Nerf battles, snowball fights, etc.).


Have someone read Judges 15:1-16.

Thinking about v.7, why do Americans tend to love a good underdog revenge movie/story? What is it about getting justice for ourselves that we find attractive?

Take a moment as a group and find every instance in this passage when someone was wronged by another person. How have you seen a vicious cycle of wrongs happen in your own life?

Do you think Samson’s actions were justified? Is the story of Samson one to be celebrated or avoided? Why do you think so?

In a way, Samson accomplished his purpose in fighting for God’s people—but where did Samson go wrong, and what did it cost him?

What situations or causes make you burn with righteous indignation? How do you grieve that pain and seek forgiveness over a cycle of revenge?


Have someone read Matthew 18:21-35.

Knowing how much Jesus cares about forgiveness—and our ability to forgive others—why can it be so difficult to actually forgive?

If you were the master in this story, and your servant failed to forgive a smaller debt than the one you just forgave, what would your reaction be?

How has receiving God’s forgiveness allowed you to forgive others?

Who is a person that you need to forgive? What are the reasons for withholding forgiveness from them?

Josh said this week that “the willingness to bury something in order to forgive, makes forgiveness the ultimate act of love.” How have you seen this to be true in your life?


For each week of the series, different family relationships will be highlighted on-stage and in-study. Revisit these helpful acts and try them this week!

The Bigger Family
The sheltering experience impacts us in different ways, but whether we’re busy or bored, we all need someone to talk to. Choose a family-type relationship you have, and reach out to them.

Forgiving Your Family
Forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation. How is your life hindered by a lack of forgiveness? In prayer, ask God to reveal the people you need to forgive, or be forgiven by—and consider healthy steps in moving forward with those people.

Singleness Is Not A Bad Thing
How can you share life with a single person this week—via video call, written letter, food delivery, etc.?

Parenting Is Hard
Identify one way that you would like to be better at parenting, or supporting a parent in need.

Each week, these action steps can develop healthy habits in how you respond to family situations and relationships, rather than changing the actions of others.


God, thank you for the forgiveness that you extend toward us. Help us grieve the loss of seeking justice and revenge, and be inspired by Your love instead—leading us to forgive others just like you forgive us. Amen!


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